Sometimes, it's the simplest things that cause the most consternation about getting divorced. You sit there on that first day after the big decision, thinking, "How am I ever going to do this? I have never put air in my own tires. I don't know when recycling day is. How do I make sure my pipes don't burst over the winter?"
And it all looks huge and overwhelming, and then you just close your eyes and trust that you're going to find a way. And day after day, you do. If you let yourself feel it, each thing-- each stupid little thing-- feels like a victory. It shows you that you're more capable than you knew.
Maybe especially if you have kids, there's the extra impetus to become more capable. I want Sarina to know her momma as someone who gets her hands dirty-- someone who can change a tire, fix a boo-boo, plant a garden, assemble do-it-yourself furniture, and play "Twinkle Twinkle Little Star" on the guitar.
Yesterday, I put air in my tires. Today, I fixed the dryer. Tomorrow, I'm considering re-shingling the roof. (Er, just kidding.)
I'm Sarina's momma. I rule.



Congratulations! It's indeed a fun thing to accomplish something for the first time!
ReplyDeleteHehee, Jenna, you look great and Serena looks sweet asleep on your arm.
ReplyDeleteI actually had a pink tool kit I bought years ago. It had everything for fixin'. : D
Hey Jenna, I've been a really lax blog reader and commenter... but I just tuned in today and I read the comment about a divorce...
ReplyDeleteI just wanted to offer you a hug... I was a single mom for several years, but it was worth it for my family. :)
I enjoy reading your blog.
ReplyDeleteI like your funny sense of humour (as well as your stories).
Go get a copy of HerStory: What I Learned in My Bathtub...and More True Stories on Life, Love, And Other Inconveniences. You'll love it. So fitting for these situations.
ReplyDeleteI've always been single and to me it would be weird to leave things to someone else and not be involved. That to me would be harder than doing everything myself, though many times I wish I didn't have to.
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